This reasoned question applies to every adult, especially state and federal law makers, bureaucrats, service providers in nonprofit organizations, and even law enforcement officials around us.

Or better put, it applies to every income earner, big or small.

I intentionally highlighted the word adult because non-judgmental generosity is a great reflection of one’s maturity and decency.

We should help because our help is needed and can positively transform lives, not just because helping makes us feel good about ourselves and our place in society.

We should readily help because the life of a poor, weak, jobless, hungry or afflicted neighbor is more precious than the beefy biases, stratifications and social engineering that can sometimes undermine it.

No Child’s Play

Of course, it is not easy to help people we don’t like, more so if they (or those who look like them) offended us in the past or fall into stretched stereotypes that present imaginary or actual threats to our sensibilities.

Anybody who says it is easy to employ a recovering drug addict or rent an apartment to a felon without credit history is not admitting the truth.

Many are more likely to help those they (know, trust and) like than those they dislike. And beyond that, many have the tendency to help only those they think can repay them in cash or kind – which, regrettably, makes their help a kind of transaction.

But our world is such that not everyone is in a position to repay our good deeds, and everyone is not bound to like our preferences, values, mannerisms, opportunities (or lack of them) and worldview – even when they are predicated on widely (and long) held traditions.

Even one’s intra-faith tradition can cause others to treat one with dislike or even disdain, thus making it hard to offer much-needed help.

Needs That Speak All Languages

Yet, the glaring needs of the poor, weak and afflicted around us speak all languages of true faith and true conscience.

A blazing humanitarian need – like homelessness or hunger in bitter cold weather – does not deeply care about the appellations, talking points or social affiliations of the person who meets it or chooses not to.

A blazing humanitarian need cries out for help from whoever can give it within the confines of extant law. And it cries with subdued expectations because – living in vibrant communities that have long rendered hermitic life irrelevant – help should never be far away.

Children of our neighbors should never stay awake at night because of hunger or untreated illness. Seniors should never worry about being alone and helpless. Able-bodied veterans should never go without good jobs that can make the best use of their skills. Teenage girls should never be dehumanized (and thus forced to contemplate dropping out of school or even suicide) because they made the big mistake of getting pregnant out of wedlock. And women trafficked for labor or sex should never remain in torturous bondage in our vicinity.

Help should come – and come fast.

Remember the much-sermonized parable of the Good Samaritan? Well … the Good Samaritan had strong cultural reasons to dislike the man who was in dire need. He had ample geopolitical justifications to ignore the man’s blazing need for medical care and go about his profitable business. Thankfully, he chose to do the right thing. He chose to become sacrificially generous to a man he could have conveniently disliked.

Good People Next Door

I am glad that there are many Good People around us today. I know that because each year, thousands volunteer their valuable skills and time at our various facilities, kindly serving people they could have easily disliked or ignored. I know that because thousands send us donations in money and materials to support our work of daily helping over 2200 men, women and children in our community who have fallen on hard times.

Sometimes, I wonder what would have become of our former clients who are now multiple award winning singers, admired law enforcement officers, and value-creating business owners if they hadn’t received the help they desperately needed.

Though probably disliked by some people (who felt unconcerned) in their time of homelessness, hunger and hurt, non-judgmental help still found its way to them.

Today, even those who may have disliked them are benefiting from the fruits of their transformation – enjoying their chart-busting songs, taking family members to savor their restaurant delicacies, listening and sharing their uplifting sermons, et al.

So, should you help only those you like?

Obviously, No!

You should help anyone in need however, wherever and whenever you can, and without expectation of any earthly reward.

Where did time go?

I bet you hear that a lot in these dying days of 2016.

When people around us ask that rhetorical question, it should not alarm or agitate us. Rather, it should serve to remind us that time is one of the most precious commodities we have as humans, which is why we should treat each moment we have with utmost sense of purpose.

So, it is a good thing that the year 2016 is about to roll into the dustbin of history and MAKE WAY for 2017.

What may not be good is that the transition is happening amid palpable mass anxiety, uncertainty and fear. Many are pessimistic about our families, our public institutions, our safety nets, our good neighborliness in the community, and our civic and faith traditions, but should they?

DEFEAT PESSIMISM

For us at 107-year-old Detroit Rescue Mission Ministries (DRMM, https://drmm.org), the best way to handle such cloud of pessimism is to:

1. Gratefully count the many blessings we enjoyed in 2016;
2. Constantly remind ourselves of our purpose as an organization;
3. Dutifully enhance our capacity to help more individuals and families; and
4. Prayerfully exercise the reasoned hope that there are more blessings (at the Source of all blessings) bearing our name in 2017.

Yes, we choose to be grateful, ready and hopeful – and for pretty good reasons.

Guess what … You too can do likewise. Why not? You have many good things to be grateful for (start counting and you will be amazed). You can find more room in your heart to show compassion to more people around you. And you should be hopeful about your future, especially if you know that God holds it in His powerful hands, and you are hardworking, honest, humble and prayerful.

NEVER ALONE

Despite the many challenges around us, it is most helpful to remember that “our Redeemer liveth.”

It is also important to bear in mind that there are more individuals, families, businesses, groups and agencies that truly appreciate and support our difference-making humanitarian work than those that ignore or seek to undermine it.

We have many individuals and groups on our side – and that’s worth being glaringly thankful and hopeful about.

(If you take the time to count, you will certainly come to the Gehazian realization that you too are not alone; there are many people on your side.)

There is real strength in numbers. There is comfort in being accepted in one’s community. There is motivation in being appreciated and supported in a worthy cause. After all, success hardly happens in seclusion. It often happens in the context of strategic relationships and collaborations.

That’s why we will not stop at gratitude and hope. We will also apply greater diligence and dexterity in strengthening and expanding our relationships and collaborations in ways that will help us meet the varying needs of the thousands of men, women and children we serve each day at our facilities in metro Detroit.

THOUGH YOU MISS THE MARK

One very important lesson many adults learn (especially as one year ends and another begins) is that things do not always work as we plan and hope. Sometimes we gain, sometimes we lose but we should never fail to plan and hope just because we are gripped by the notion of losing.

When we lose, it is not always because we didn’t plan well or work hard and smart enough. Things happen at times because they were ordained to happen (the way they did).

We see that in the death of friends, colleagues and family members. We lost a number of our team members at DRMM this year. We didn’t foresee their death. Nor have we fully recovered from it. Yet, we remain grateful that they played their vital part in our long-standing mission of helping men and women regain their stability, wellbeing, sense of family, positive productivity and self-reliance.

Also, some of our faithful volunteers and donors passed away this year. We consider it remarkable to have people who have donated to us ceaselessly for decades. How we wish those of them who passed on this year are still alive to receive regular updates of our progress. How we wish they are still alive to continue upholding us in prayer.

But we remain grateful that they had committed their precious lives to the noble task of helping “the least of these” among us.

GREATER RESPONSIBILITY

As we enter the New Year without them, we feel a greater sense of responsibility to double our efforts in helping more people in need right here in southeast Michigan.

Of course, that would be supine or even impossible without continuing to boost the morale of our team members – which is a major priority.

Be they facility managers, case managers, certified counselors or residence specialists, their work is very demanding and can be frustrating at times, given the types of clientele we deal with daily – including people returning from prison and those suffering from substance abuse or chronic homelessness.

Thus, we seek and gladly welcome your fervent prayers, words of encouragement, suggestions, scheduled tour of our facilities, skilled volunteerism and donation of money and materials.

They are priceless, and we cannot continue to make a difference without them.

Thank you for your much valued partnership and best wishes for Year 2017.

Here in America, most of us are used to celebrating Thanksgiving on the fourth Thursday of November. It’s both a national and a family tradition – and a happy one at that.

Also called Turkey Day, we gather around the dinner table with friends and family to savor large meals of usually roasted turkey and dressing, mashed potato and gravy, and the good old cranberry juice.

Then we enjoy that much-anticipated football match, or, perhaps, head downtown to watch the much-publicized and colorful Thanksgiving parade.

Owing to our busy schedules and how personal dreams, urbanization and industrialization have dispersed us, Thanksgiving could well be the only day on our calendar to catch some extensive fun with family and friends – some of whom live far away.

They’d probably join the fun with stories about the “One-week-one-trouble” Uncle Bob, or the latest news and conspiracy theories about innovators, celebrities and politicians.

So much fervor, so much fun that one could wish the day never draws to a close.

But the bills are saying Hello!

Besides, on our way to the downtown parade are men, women and children who want the day to hurry to a close, not because they are opposed and allergic to fun and laughter but because they have little or no access to all the good things that make up a typical Thanksgiving experience.

There are the over-65 seniors who live alone in the neighborhood and feel they have no caring relatives, neighbors and friends to make Thanksgiving more than a daydream.

There are the male and female ex-prisoners who are still struggling to get accepted and reintegrated in a society that has all it takes to make life more meaningful for them.

There are the jobless, homeless and hungry persons who feel worthless, helpless and hopeless in a society that is arguably matchless in empathy and compassion.

There are the men and women who put their lives on the line to promote and defend our freedoms but are now living poorly and lamentably in our community.

To them, Thanksgiving Day is like any other day – full of fear, indignity, dejection, disease, lack and hurt.

To them, there is no Thanksgiving. The ceremony, the fanfare, the laughter, the priceless company of family and friends, and the sweet memories we create are only a matter of spontaneous imagination and wish.

So, what if you reach out and give them the heartfelt happiness and hope that will make them thank God and appreciate you this Thanksgiving?

What if you visit and support them in nearby emergency shelters, transitional housing facilities, nursing homes, prisons, abandoned buildings and street corners with a hand of reasoned and respectful fellowship?

Doing so will make your Thanksgiving refreshingly different – for, as I see it, there is no better happiness than that which comes from being your brother’s and sister’s keeper.

So, to your Thanksgiving, add some Helpgiving. It’s probably the best way to spice up your day.

Please, comment below if you want my ready help with your Helpgiving plans.

Thank you.

Happy Thanksgiving!