May
20

I have often written about the kindness of metro Detroiters because it continues to inspire me. That someone would act in support and encouragement of someone else especially outside their own family, neighborhood or circle of friends is refreshingly amazing. But it happens every day in my community.

Some think kindness is – or should be – the exclusive domain of the prominent and powerful. Not so. I have seen the poorest of the poor showing kindness to others. I have seen the jobless and homeless helping people of like circumstances in our shelters. I have also seen orphans looking out for fellow orphans, victims of domestic violence providing support to fellow victims, and recovering alcoholics and returning citizens giving peer support at our service delivery sites in metro Detroit.

Whenever men and women on public assistance or seniors in nursing homes send us checks to help the young and old in dire need, I think of kindness as a precious bird that cannot be caged.

Kindness is a virtue that anyone can choose to practice. It doesn’t matter what our circumstances are or whether others expect nothing good from us.

The way I see it, kindness has a way of making us feel truly human. For as social beings, we not only respond to the need to interact and associate with others but also empathize with them. And empathy leads us to compassion which in turn leads to improved and changed lives around us.

That’s what I often remind my various mentees. That’s also what I teach my four kids. And I am so pleased that for their birthdays this month, my first daughter Leila, and last son, Nadim, asked for no expensive presents or parties. Instead, they sent me a short video asking that I help them distribute special treats to seniors in the cities of Dearborn and Inkster.

I was enamored of the video and understandably proud that in it, they spoke of being inspired by our multifarious work at Detroit Rescue Mission (where, since April, we’ve distributed over 3000 large boxes of non-perishable food items to seniors in 7 cities in Western Wayne).

Who wouldn’t be proud? As a parent, you pray, work hard and hope your kids follow good examples and do the right thing.

Thank you Leila and Nadim for making me feel my labor of love in your lives has been very fruitful. You’ve been excelling in academics and sports. And now, you are demonstrating the power of empathy and compassion, and I couldn’t be happier.

Within two days of watching and sharing the aforementioned heart-warming video, Somerset Collections and Rocky Mountain Chocolate Factory came on board, providing as many as 1000 large individually wrapped cookies. Then the Dearborn Police and Inkster Police departments agreed to send officers to help us distribute the cookies and 60 bags of groceries to seniors in their senior housing communities.

And they did – with instructive and infectious poise.

The feedback I got? The seniors really loved the cookies and were so happy that the teens would think of them with such kindness.They also loved the fact that friendly police men and women brought treats to their doorsteps amid the lockdown.

As I thank all those who gladly supported this thoughtful effort, I keep remembering the joyful and exciting look on the young faces of Leila and Nadim as we went about the distribution on May 15. They looked more excited and joyful than previous birthdays with big presents.

Who knows? Maybe, their friends are already thinking of using the occasion of their birthdays to celebrate, encourage and support others, especially those who might need a little help. Won’t that be so nice?

Let the kindness continue with you.

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May
14

This will be a summer unlike any other.

So many families and individuals in our community are still in shock from the ravages of the coronavirus. They’ve lost jobs, homes . . . and loved ones. And the experts warn that it’s not over yet.

The only sure thing is that the hungry will grow even hungrier. And all those who are out there looking for work? Well, not all of them will find it. The number of homeless in our city could double, or even triple.

This is why Jesus told us to love one another, and to love one another just as much as we love ourselves!

If there was ever a time when we needed to love our neighbor, this is it. And I’m thinking that—at a time like this—Jesus probably means more than money in the offering tray. More than a bag of canned goods dropped off at the pantry. More than donating all the ski clothes the kids have outgrown.

This is a time for us all to pull together and truly love one another—caring for the most vulnerable, giving generously to ease suffering, and going the extra mile to reach children who were at-risk even BEFORE their parents lost their jobs.

Together, we can do this. We can keep our children, our elderly, and frightened families and individuals safe over summer. But it’s going to take all of us . . .

Please make a gift now. And spread the word to everyone you know to do the same because your neighbors are shattered and need to know you care.

Thank you for standing with all of us at DRMM now and all summer long.

Chad Audi

President

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April
20

We all have friends, family, colleagues and neighbors negatively impacted by COVID-19. Don’t we? Some are either sick, recovering, retrenched or struggling to get needed medications and food supplies in the ongoing lockdown, which simply means they need the good old empathy and compassion.

It’s safe to say things have not been easy for everyone. And the more we follow the news, the easier it is to come to the conclusion that the situation will not get back to normal anytime soon.

That doesn’t mean we should all give up. No way. We are not a people who give up. Instead, when things get as tough as they are right now, we double our compassionate efforts to ensure our individual and collective well being. Beyond keeping to the life-saving social distancing and personal hygiene guidelines from the authorities, we increase our love and care for people around us.

A phone call to check up on them. Prayer for their safety and good health. Words of encouragement and support sent through SMS, email or on their social media pages. The list goes on.

As life is threatened and love is challenged, we are reminded of the powerful words of late New York Times bestselling author and sociology professor, Leo Buscaglia: “Life is our greatest possession and love its greatest affirmation.”

Isn’t that so true? Our love affirms that we truly value life – ours and others’.

Buscaglia was right to posit that we should all live for something, especially “creating joy for others, sharing what we have for the betterment of personkind, bringing hope to the lost and love to the lonely.”

Agreed.

Perhaps, in this pandemic, no segment of the population is more susceptible to loneliness and hopelessness than our seniors. And as a society, we can’t afford to leave them to such. We have to act, and act fast in demonstration of our love for them.

That is why the Dearborn Police Department, the Wayne County Sheriff’s Department, the Inkster Police Department and the Qazi Foundation all deserve commendation for actively supporting our recent distribution of more than 550 large boxes of food items valued at more than $40, 000 to senior citizens in Dearborn and Inkster. Neither cold weather nor the palpable frenzy in the community could deter them from collaborating with us. And the news media, especially Fox 2 News Detroit and Channel 7 Detroit, also played their part in helping people find joy and inspiration in such collaborative outreach to our seniors.

But there are more seniors in need. From cities like Roseville, Highland Park and Detroit where we have been distributing food items for a long time, to Redford, Garden City and Westland, there are countless seniors hoping for front porch delivery of food boxes that could ease their food-related anxiety and concerns. No day passes without us getting more requests and recommendations for food deliveries to seniors, and we won’t allow the thought of our obvious inability to help ALL seniors-in-need hinder or slow us down. Grateful that many in Michigan see us as the go-to nonprofit for seniors and others in dire need, we will continue to expand our partnerships and collaborations to ensure we quickly help as many as possible and in a way that preserves their dignity.

And while a number of organizations are firing or furloughing their staff because of the pandemic, we are actually maintaining existing staff and hiring new ones. Just last week, we hired 27 staff to perform different functions in our faithful task of providing hope and help to the homeless, hungry and hurting in our community. We have also opened new sites to meet the life-saving needs of the moment. Yes, we now have additional residential sites to help fight the pandemic!

We actually are on the frontlines of the fight. Like doctors, nurses and others in the healthcare sector, we in human services are also exposed 24/7 to the risks associated with the pandemic. All our residential sites operate round the clock, providing essential wrap-around services to women and children, seniors, veterans, teen moms, returning citizens, substance use disorder patients, and victims of domestic abuse who need to gain stability, sobriety, second chances and self-sustenance.

So, as we sincerely and respectfully thank you for your continued prayers, words of encouragement and financial support, we humbly ask you to join us in commending our drivers, janitors, chefs, case managers, counselors, residence specialists, program supervisors and directors, and other very important members of the 300-plus Detroit Rescue Mission positive action team who risk so much to ensure that the “least of these” around us get the hand-up they need today and beyond.

March
30

In many ways, we are in uncharted territory. Even the foremost experts in infectious disease control and prevention can’t tell us where the COVID-19 pandemic is heading, and when it will cease to plague our communities. Many cities, including those in metro Detroit, are on necessary lock-down. And the longer the lock-down, the more it becomes obvious that life as we know it – especially in terms of convenience, comfort, predictability and social bonding – has changed forever. As far as I know, anxiety, fear and panic have not been this high in recent history.

And every day, we face the immeasurable pain of losing friends, partners, neighbors and loved ones. Just like that. You talk with them today on the phone and tomorrow you hear they are gone, leaving behind vacuums that are too big to fill. That’s so sad.

I don’t remember the last time I had a good sleep in the last four weeks. Why should I? There are over 2200 disadvantaged persons relying on us each day for services ranging from hot meals and emergency shelter to child tutoring and substance abuse detox and treatment. They are more vulnerable in a crisis time like this, and we have to make sure their health and well-being are protected and promoted, following relevant guidelines from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) and state and city officials.

Thus, apart from pre-entry testing for COVID-19 symptoms like fever, promotion of frequent hand-washing, and cessation of serving food in common areas, we have significantly increased the number of times we sanitize common areas like bathrooms, dorms, hallways, libraries, TV lounge, chapels and dining room.

Besides, the required social distancing (like clients staying 6-feet from each other) has created a situation where each of our locations can only serve about a third of its normal capacity. So, new facilities that meet the intricate needs of the moment have become necessary. Thankfully, we have opened two such facilities with the help of the City of Detroit, and are currently in talks with the relevant Wayne County agency to open another one for clients undergoing treatment.

Obviously, all that requires more resources – food, personal protective equipment (PPE), sanitary items, etc. Our staff of about 300 – and some of them have pre-existing conditions that limit their involvement in the COVID-19 response – are already stretched too thin. Overtime pay is now high, and skill-based group volunteers are no longer an option.

Too many challenges, But we are not giving up. And we are not slowing down either.

A major reason is this: we’ve got friends, faithful friends. Or as superstars, Lennon and Maisy, sang, “I’ve got you, and you’ve got me.” We’ve got metro Detroit and metro Detroit’s got us. 

We continue to receive lots of calls, text messages and emails from individuals and organizations offering one form of help or another. Chefs. Foundation executives. Business leaders. Community advocates. Young influencers. Retirees. Media and sports personalities. They all solidarize with our intense efforts to make sure homeless, hungry and hurting individuals and families get as much support and upliftment as possible. That has been so encouraging – to put it mildly. And we are indeed grateful.

Recall that the Detroit community also gave us a similar level of financial and moral support after 9/11 and during the Great Recession, enabling us to give much-needed help and hope to those who needed them most.

And as we exercise the hope that this devastating COVID-19 pandemic ends in no distant time, we are not oblivious of how the resultant negative economic impact could precipitate a big rise in the number of people and families in need of shelter, food, clothes and shoes, substance abuse treatment and job readiness programs. We are already looking ahead and re-positioning ourselves to meet those needs, with the help of our faithful friends.

Hopefully, I will get the opportunity to share our plans with you in the coming weeks.

Till then, thank you so much, and please keep safe and keep well. Let’s overcome COVID-19 together.

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March
10

I am yet to come across an individual or organization that would rather have people think the worst of them. We all want people to think of us as good, smart, efficient, effective and reliable – just as we think of ourselves. Don’t we? But people are not bound to see us the way we see ourselves. You may see yourself as the best in your field while others choose to see you as pretending to be so. And convincing them otherwise is not always easy. You may even turn them off if you become pushy about it.

You and I know that many don’t respond favorably to self-praise. They frown at it – and I don’t blame them. Who likes to hang around someone that always talks about themselves and their personal achievements? No matter how much you respect the person, you can get turned off by their self-indulgence.

That’s why the book of wisdom offers a very suitable advice in Proverbs 27: 2: “Let someone else praise you, and not your own mouth; an outsider, and not your own lips.

Let a former professor of yours, an existing client, a former employer or former business partner say how good and dependable you are. Let your donors say how happy they are that their generous dollars are making a difference in the community. They actually sound more credible.

If like me, you lead a direct service nonprofit that touches and transforms lives, you will be all about producing positive results, and you will be ready at all times to discuss relevant facts and figures about your operational processes, outcomes and impact.

Why not? Doing so helps you get your train running strong and on time. Donors, be they individuals, families, government agencies, businesses and foundations, often donate on the clear understanding that you are delivering tangible results and making a difference. And there’s nothing wrong with that.

But it is important not to appear cheesy or charlatan-like while discussing one’s achievements.

Recruiters will readily advise that instead of indulging in vague self-praise (on one’s resume), one should show results using easy-to-understand numbers. Sure. Let the numbers speak for you. And to nonprofits, I often say let your info-graphics do most of the talking, especially if they contain data from top rated third parties.

It’s the same reason that accountants strive to get CPA status and physicians go to great lengths to become board certified. The third party validations make them look more dependable and competitive in the marketplace of solutions.

At Detroit Rescue Mission, for instance, we work hard to meet the tough requirements for maintaining our accreditation by the Commission on Accreditation of Rehabilitation Facilities (CARF), Evangelical Council for Financial Accountability (ECFA), and Better Business Bureau, among others, because many in our target audiences assess our efficacy and reliability through the lens of such validation.

And just last week, we received yet another 4-star rating, the “highest possible rating” by America’s leading charity evaluation organization, the Charity Navigator. “Only 32% of the charities we evaluate have received at least 2 consecutive 4-star evaluations, indicating that Detroit Rescue Mission Ministries outperforms most other charities in America,” noted Charity Navigator in a letter conveying the good news.

So, instead of telling people how good we are – and probably sounding like we are just bragging – we simply tell them we have the highest rating by Charity Navigator, and are accredited by the well-regarded organizations mentioned above. We tell them our clients, donors, neighbors, external auditors and evaluation agencies are saying we are good. We tell them our very experienced leaders are invited to sit on important boards and committees at the local, state and federal levels.

And if you ask me, I’d say the notable Michigan philanthropist who recently donated three big buildings – one in Livonia, and two in Detroit – to us must have taken such good reputation into consideration. I’d also say the same thing about the wonderful men and women who see us in the local news and write or call to make much-appreciated donations in support of our work.

March
2

Randolph was hungry when he came through the Mission doors. We sat with him while he ate a good hot $1.95 meal, provided by a caring donor like you, and listened as he told us about the poor decisions and good-time friends who’d put him on the wrong path in life.

He says, “I picked up my first drink when I was 19 years old, and it grew from there. It was peer pressure. I was hanging out with the wrong crowd, and I knew it was getting out of hand.”

Later, as an honorably discharged veteran, Randolph wanted to pursue his goals, but addiction derailed his hopes and dreams. “I separated myself from my family because of guilt and embarrassment,” he says. “I slept in the park—under the bridge, behind buildings—and ate out of garbage cans. It was degrading to wonder where you’re going to get your next meal.”

That’s when we told Randolph that new beginnings happen at DRMM every day—even to him!

“DRMM welcomed me with open arms,” Randolph says. “They showed me love, and they showed me tough love, too. They point you in the right direction and help you with skills, trades, jobs, and education. They have Bible study, church, a choir, and they’ve helped me grow spiritually. They helped me talk with my family—who forgave me with open arms.

“The Mission is all about love, faith, and spiritual guidance. They give me inspiration and keep me focused.”

Randolph has heartfelt words of thanks to caring friends and donors who’ve helped him to get a fresh start in life. He says, “I appreciate your love and all that you contribute. Don’t stop donating because there are people here who need you, people who don’t have anybody to love them but the Mission.”

This is a crazy time in our city, with so many hurting and in desperate need of help. On behalf of Randolph and so many other men and women in your community who urgently need meals, help, and hope to rebuild a broken life, please make a generous gift now!

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“I slept in the park—under the bridge, behind buildings—and ate out of garbage cans. It was degrading to wonder where you’re going to get your next meal.”